I WILL NOT PUT A DRESS A VEIL AND A BOW-TIE ON DIVORCE 

 As a child who grew up with divorce and the ugliness of all that is entailed, and all the damage that is done by it, I surely am NOT going to gloss over it and try to make it look attractive for my children.  My husband and I married 35 years ago, vowing never to divorce.  We had a rededication of our vows on our fifth anniversary, and with eight baby dedications, we again vowed to remain a loving nurturing husband, wife, father and mother so our children could be raised in a s secure environment where they knew they were loved.  Now, my husband wants me to gloss over his decision to divorce, well I say, HELL NO!  I will not put a dress on his actions and just write off everything we vowed, and tried to build, so he can destroy it, and walk away free and clear.  I’m sorry, but I’m not a liar.  I will never lie to my children, ever.  I grew up with all liars, I will not repeat history, even if their father wants history repeated. 

  I will not say, "Well, daddy just decided to love someone else besides the woman to whom he married and vowed ten times to be faithful to, but we must respect his decision and you need to honor your father and all he does."  I refuse to participate in what GOD say He hates.  I will not go to court, to fight this out before a human judge.  People advise me to get a lawyer and fight him, and fight for them.   Sorry, that ain't happening. My children need to learn just how ugly and painful this is, and get a full appreciation for the trail of devastation divorce  leaves behind.

It is not my responsibility to gloss over the ugliness of what their father is doing, nor is it my responsibility to go to court to plead with a human judge to make my children's father do what he should be already doing. I'm not going to go fight tooth and nail, compromise my convictions and self-respect to beg for dollars and cents. If He chooses to cut us off or down to nothing, that's on him, not me. It isn’t my responsibility to save face for him.  I’m against this, I’ve tried my hardest to try and talk him out of this, but he is going through with it.  It’s been six years since he told me while I had cancer that he was going to file for divorce, and as soon as he got a huge windfall inheritance, that is exactly what he did to protect his assets from me and the children.  This is all about money.  I will not allow his name, honor and reputation to be salvaged in this abomination. He has chosen to destroy this family, and if he has chosen to cut them down to next to nothing and they lose out, he will shoulder the blame, not me.  I want my children to hurt, not out of spite, but growing pains are just that.  I want them to never do this to their own children.  I want them to hate divorce as much as GOD and I do.  To make matters even worse, he is divorcing me over Skype, after 35 years, on the 36th anniversary of the say he asked me to marry him.  If that isn't GOD adding insult to injury, I don't know what is.  GOD is Sovereign over every detail of our lives, and the irony of the first hearing being on the day my husband asked me to marry him is proof that what he is doing is an abomination to GOD and to his family. 

ADDENDUM:  On the 36th anniversary of the day he asked me to marry him, he dragged me into divorce court via a zoom hearing, yes, on the computer and told the judge he didn't want anything but his money and his Beatles albums.  He lied saying he wanted joint custody, but in the three years since, he has not once had them on an overnight visit.  They are here all the time, and this past year he has planned less than five events with them, yes, that from January to the end of July.  He has no interest in being a father, but this is how good my Father in Heaven is as Counsel.  I got the house and everything in it.  I can sell this house and run off with the money, all the money he paid for it with.  However, being that I'm not scum, I don't plan on doing that.  I'll give him credit where credit is due.  He has been very generous in financially supporting us and has allowed me to be a full-time parent, because I'm playing the role of mother and father to them.  He has paid more than the court ordered child support, so he deserves that credit.  Personally, I think he's trying to buy forgiveness from GOD, but that's between him and YHVH GOD.